A number of years ago I was introduced to a wonderful book that proposed a way to enrich my marriage as well as the relationship I had with our children. The book was “The 5 Love Languages – The Secret to Love that Lasts” by Gary Chapman. Its premise is, if you want to effectively let someone know that you love them, don’t utilize your preferred or dominant language of love, but determine the love language of the person you want to communicate your love and utilize it. The 5 love languages Chapman identifies are… Words of affirmation, quality time spent, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
Those who have utilized the principles Chapman suggests, testify to its powerful effectiveness. In fact, the principles proved so effective I utilized a companion book, “The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace,” in a graduate course I taught dealing with motivation theory entitled, “Energizing People for Performance.”
Powerful stuff! And the principle of the “love language” books – that effectively communicating love is not about our preferred way of saying “I love you,” instead it is about the preferred way of the person we desire to communicate of our love to.
And in the case of my devotions this morning that person was God! Here’s the phrase from Ephesians 5:1-13 that brought it to mind… “Try to discern what pleases the Lord!” In other words, simply saying “I love you Lord” is not sufficient – read your Bible, listen to His voice, and demonstrate your love to Him in ways that He indicates please Him.
Com’on, read the following passage with that in mind:
“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving. For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. Therefore do not become partners with them; for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), AND TRY TO DISCERN WHAT IS PLEASING TO THE LORD. Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.” (Ephesians 5:1-13 ESV)
Hey, I want the Lord to REALLY KNOW that I love Him! Don’t you?